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Focused Counselling in Swindon, Wiltshire

Specialist Areas

Depression

Symptoms of depression can be:

  • Feeling sad and worthless
  • Losing interest in things that you once enjoyed
  • Weight gain or loss
  • Fatigue
  • Loss of concentration and maybe having black thoughts
  • Being tearful
  • Having angry outbursts followed by feeling guilty or bad

Making sense of your depression can often be the first step to knowing how to mange it. Feeling depressed can affect the relationships that you are in and this can make you feel isolated and very alone.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a structured and solution focused form of therapy. CBT tends to deal with the here and now - how your thoughts and behaviours are affecting you now. It recognises that events in your past have shaped the way that you currently think and behave. In particular, thought patterns and behaviours learned in childhood, However, CBT does not dwell on the past, but aims to find solutions to how to change your current thoughts and behaviours so that you can function better now and in the future.

Couples Work

When one or both partners decide that they can no longer continue in the relationship they may decide to separate without fully exploring what is at the root of the problems that they are experiencing. A very large percentage of couples split for all the wrong reasons only to regret it later.

Couples counselling offers a space where you will both be supported whilst you explore whatever difficulties are affecting your relationship.

Depending on to what degree a couple's relationship has deteriorated, couples counselling may require only a few sessions, or meeting with the therapist at least once each week for several months of counselling.

Couples counselling works for those who work at it.

Anger

Anger is an intense emotion that most of us feel from time to time. Suppressing anger is not the answer nor is the full expression of it because both extremes can lead to very undesirable outcomes. You may find yourself feeling exhausted, guilty and low after an angry outburst.

Counselling will offer you a safe and confidential space where we can explore what pushes your button and why. By making sense of what causes your anger we can work with how to put you in a place of feeling more in control.

Abuse

Abuse can be something that is done or something that can be omitted from being done. Abuse exists in many forms:

Physical abuse - may include hitting, punching, slapping, kicking, pinching or scratching.

Psychological abuse - may include intimidation e.g threats of physical harm, shouting, swearing, name calling, racist comments, deprived of normal activities or contact, humiliation, indifference, emotional blackmail.

Sexual Abuse - includes rape, sexual assault, unwanted sexual acts, sexual acts with person unable to give consent, subject to indecent exposure or teasing or innuendo.

Discriminatory abuse - oppressive and prejudicial attitudes towards a person's disability, age, race religion sexual orientations.

Counselling will provide a safe non-judgemental environment and a structured process where you can acknowledge the fact of the abuse and its impact. It is important to share the way you are feeling with someone you can trust, someone who will be there for you to listen and give you support. Talking about what has happened to you can make an enormous difference and can feel like a great weight being lifted from you.

Working with Adolescents

Adolescents may not know why they are feeling or acting the way that they are. Or, they may know why but do not know what to do too feel or act differently. Adolescents face many difficulties in the transition from childhood into adulthood. Often, their behaviour and attitude are good indicators that they might be struggling or having difficulty coping with things going on in their lives. They may appear depressed or sad, threatening, withdrawn or secretive, they may be drinking, being promiscuous, truanting from school or college.

Counselling can make a real difference. Counselling provides the kind of support, direction, and help that can make the difference in your teenager’s mental and physical health, relationships, and overall outlook. Adolescents do not have to go through life’s struggles, frustrations, and losses alone.

Self Harming

Many people who self harm feel that the self-harming may be the only thing in their life that they feel they have some control over. It is seen as a coping mechanism to deal with other problems, offering distraction, a chance to exert control over the body, and a way of releasing and expressing emotions.

Some feel self-harm is calming when they feel overwhelmed, helping them to focus, slow their emotions down and regain control of a situation. For others it is part of a ritual that helps them feel safe.

Many use it to help bury thoughts or feelings, flashbacks or nightmares, numbing the emotions. Others see it as a form of punishment to deal with feelings of shame and guilt.

Counselling will offer a space where the individual can talk through their problems, and establish what is at the heart of their need to self-harm. It gives a non-judgemental, completely confidential atmosphere.

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